Who is Jessica Headey Gandolfi?
Jessica Headey Gandolfi is an emotional health and wellness expert. She is the founder of Harmonyum LA, a business based in Venice, Los Angeles, which helps people with their health and wellness. With the same goal in mind, Jessica started the Harmonyum LA podcast.
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Who is Jessica Headey Gandolfi?
A little bit of backstory about me and where I am currently. So initially, I am from the UK. I was born in Hampshire, which is about an hour and a half south of London. I grew up in Yorkshire, which is about four hours north of London. I spent the majority of my adult life living and working in central London.
I am now living in Venice, California. I’ve been here probably almost 14 years now. I have a nearly 16-year-old boy and extraordinary girl twins. I have a few healthy obsessions or passions, I guess. Habits or passions, one of the two, but they’re all pretty much beneficial. I’m obsessed with horses. I’ve been an avid horseback rider since I was a little girl. I am obsessed or highly passionate about crystals. I’ve always been drawn to the inanimate shiny objects. And I think some people will collect art as they go along in their lives. I collect crystals seemingly and as my collection grows, so does the size and the power of the crystals that I collect. Honestly, I could probably open my crystal store or two with the number of crystals that I have in and around my studio in my home. I love to ride a bike.
I’m still obsessed and love all things, James Bond. I’m obsessed with Formula One racing. I will have a great game of backgammon, chess, or cards. Don’t get me wrong; I love to go out and dance on the tables whenever I get the opportunity. So those are just a few fun facts.
Regarding my journey and how I ended up being here now, I guess my journey started when I was in high school. I didn’t realize it at the time. And it’s only in the last few years now that after having done so much work on myself, I see that that is where my story started. So I was severely bullied for all my years in high school. You know, the mean girls, they chose to bully me, to pick on me seemingly and not only mentally and emotionally, but physically, too.
I think that’s sometimes one of the hardest things. I left high school with absolutely no self-confidence, no self-esteem, and a real deep sense of loathing and hatred for my body. By the time I left college and was able to travel, that is precisely what I did. I chose to travel the globe. I thought, yes, fantastic. Nineteen years old, I can travel. I can get on a plane. I can go and work wherever I want in the world. I was qualified as a skin and body care therapist, and it was a portable skill set that I could take anywhere in the world and know that I could get a job.
And so I couldn’t wait to get on the plane. And I remember having the opportunity to go and work in the Caribbean. And that was it. I was off: I was 19 years old out of the door. I’m off on what I felt or thought was going to be an amazing journey of working and traveling the world with my career. From the outside world, it was amazing. I got to work in Southeast Asia and Singapore and Australia. You know, I worked in Paris and Central London and Portugal. It was amazing. I really was so lucky to get to travel and see all these things. Even though it was fabulous on the outside, I was still dying on the inside. I was still dying, literally dying inside because it didn’t matter where I went in the world.
These emotions, this trauma that I had experienced at the hands of these girls, these bullies in high school, went with me. But of course, it does, right? I mean your emotions, you can’t just put them in a box and leave them behind. They’re going to come with you. You can’t escape them. The only thing you can do is face your emotions so that you can start to heal them. But at the time I just wasn’t involved enough to know that. And so my default back then was to look for escapist behaviors. And of course, that started with traveling, trying to run away from the problem.
When I realized that that wasn’t going to work and I was still struggling with the pain and the emotion, I looked for other outlets. And so my escapist behaviors manifested, that emotional trauma manifested for me in the form of a very aggressive eating disorder. And that was all-consuming. When I realized that that didn’t take away the pain, I started numbing even further with alcohol and I started drinking very heavily. And so I was literally layering and layering and layering one escapist behavior on top of another hoping that that was going to make that trauma disappear, that it would help me move out of that space because I was living in a vibrational state of shame, ultimately of shame and guilt and fear and hatred and resentment and all of those very low vibrational frequencies.
I don’t care who you are, where you are, or what you do, but if you are vibrating in those emotional vibrations and low-frequency vibrations, you will never attract the good stuff into your life, because you can’t. You attract what you are. You receive what you give. So you’re giving out that vibration, that is what you’re going to attract into your life. And I know that for sure because that’s exactly what happened.
And so I ended up attracting the wrong type of relationships, the wrong type of friendships, the wrong type of experiences into my life. And every single one of those just compounded those feelings that I already had of no self-worth and self-hatred and no worthiness. Who am I to have this amazing life if I’m not worthy? And I ended up being in emotionally abusive and physically abusive relationships. I actually ended up in hospital at one point. I ended up in a marriage, which was based on a lie. It was a toxic marriage and that crumbled after 18 months. And I found myself left in a severe amount of financial debt, which I then had to try and dig myself out of.
Those experiences just compounded the feelings that were already ingrained within me. And then when I met my second husband and got pregnant and we had twins. I still was at one of my lowest points, even though I had this beautiful life. We moved to Los Angeles. We had this incredible life, but I was probably at the lowest point of my life.
When we were here, sadly the marriage crumbled and it wasn’t working for either of us. And we had to make that really painful choice, which when you have kids is more painful. Divorces are horrific. It’s an awful experience to have to go through for anybody, especially when you have children.
So that just added even more emotional trauma to the damage that was already there that I hadn’t dealt with and I was trying to run away from. I think at that point it was probably the lowest point of my life.
I remember one night even contemplating the point of me even being here. I got into such a dark place during that time and it was so painful. I just thought there’s no point. What’s the point of me even being here? No one cares, but thankfully for my kids, that’s what pulled me through because they are everything to me. And so that gave me obviously the strength to pull through this and to really start to ask for help and to look for help.
And so I remember clearly when I first started that. Thank goodness I was in Los Angeles at the time, because I truly believe that Los Angeles is the Mecca, in my opinion, of health and wellness. We have some of the most progressive treatments for health and wellbeing. It’s such a progressive city when it comes to health and wellbeing. So thank goodness that we were living here during that time. If I’d have been still living in the UK, I wouldn’t have had these amazing tools to pull from and to help me get through those really dark times.
And so I think my story would have been very different had we still been living in the UK, but thankfully we were here. And I remember, I think I was probably 44, 45 years old, and I remember waking up, the divorce had just been finalized.
‘There has to be more’
I remember sitting there in bed looking out of the window and just thinking, “Oh God, there has to be more. What is this all about? There has to be more. I can’t be 44, 45 years old and divorced and just not know what I want with my life and still be here feeling in so much pain.” And so that was the day that I chose to make the decision to really start to change how the rest of my life was going to look.
At that point, I really dove deeply into self-development. I took my first foray into self-development, into self-healing, and starting to use and utilize some of these tools and modalities are available to me here in LA. And you know, of course, some of them were really out there and some of them were very traditional. But for all of those therapies, every single one of them served its purpose at some point over the last four or five years of my healing journey. And so that was one of the reasons why I really wanted to talk about this show. I have been through so much and I’m not the only one.
As I say, we’re all connected. We’re all energy. And what one of us is going through, somebody else’s going through or has been through or is going to have to go through at some point. And so for that reason, we all need to have access to these tips and these tools that can help us because every stage of our journey is going to require a different tool. It’s going to require a different resource. It’s going to require a different version of ourselves. And if we don’t know, then how can we even begin? You know, you don’t know what you don’t know. And so the aim of the show is to really allow you to become more knowledgeable about these tools that might be able to help you when you’re in a really dark place, or when you feel all alone, when you feel like you really just don’t know what else to do, when you’ve reached rock bottom.
That is the goal of this show. It’s called Harmonyum LA the podcast, Stop Searching, Start Healing. And the reason I’ve called it that is because that’s my business now. After working through all my years of self-healing and self-development, my business is a healing practice.
My practice is called Harmonyum LA here in Venice, and I offer hands-on treatments and I also do distance healing via Zoom. Obviously, the goal is to talk about Harmonyum because honestly, I’m sure most of you have never even heard of Harmonyum as a healing system. I know that I had not even with all of my years in school and body care and the health and wellness industry, I’d never ever heard of the Harmonyum healing system until I came across it myself as a client three years ago.
The aim is to talk about Harmonyum. I’m a huge advocate for all different modalities when it comes to healing. But my passion lies with Harmonyum because it’s Harmonyum that really fixed me. I say, fixed me. I fixed myself by doing the work, but the system of Harmonyum is what really catapulted me out of addiction.
With drinking and eating disorders into a space of being, I’m going to say fully healed because I’m fully healed from the eating disorder and heavy drinking. I’m not fully healed because, as we say, there’s always something that we’re going to uncover. And the more work you do, the more in tune with yourself you become, and the more conscious you become of little issues that will pop up that need to be dealt with.
So anyway, Harmonyum for me was the key. And so that’s why I’m making it my mission to bring awareness of the system to the world because people really do need it. It’s not going to be for everybody. Everybody’s different. Like we say, healing is so multifaceted. It’s really not a one-size-fits-all. There are so many layers to each of us and there are so many layers to healing. And so we have to have access to all numbers of different things that might be able to help us. So I’m a huge advocate for all types of alternative healing modalities, but I’m also a huge pioneer for Harmonyum as a healing system.
One of the other things I did, a part of my healing was to publish a book. You know, I decided to write a children’s picture book, which was a big, big part of my healing because it was an act of service. And I think that’s one thing that I really love to share with people too, is that. Part of your healing should always be to give back to others, the less fortunate, in whatever capacity you can because when we start to serve others, it really helps to shift our mindset because it takes us out of our current situation. It takes us away from what we are focusing and honing in on and driving ourselves crazy with. And it helps us to vibrate higher because when you give and you see how it is received by somebody else who is less fortunate than yourself, it is so heart exploding. It is so fulfilling for you and for your psyche. And so to give back and to be of service to others is crucial. And again, that’s something else that we’re going to be talking about on the show because it’s imperative that we all support each other. And so for me, the writing of the children’s book, 100% of the proceeds of the book go directly to benefiting the Casa Hogar Sion orphanage, which is an orphanage in Tijuana in Mexico. I’ll talk more about that in some other episodes, but it’s just another tool, which is an act of service.
So hopefully by listening to the show, my goal is that you are going to do something, even if it’s just one thing that resonates for you that might help you. All I can wish for is that every day you can do one thing that is going to help propel you forward.
You could just do 1%, just 1% further on than you were yesterday. I’ve got some incredible guests that are going to be coming on the show, all of whom I know are going to bring you some really insightful wisdom, techniques and tips for healing.
It’s now my mission. I’ve always helped other people with their health and wellness. But now my mission has turned to helping people to heal on an emotional level because when you heal on an emotional level, everything else will start to improve because your emotions are the foundation for your life, your entire being because that’s what runs us. We don’t see them, and so we can’t see how our emotions are affecting us. We feel them and we feel the effect of our emotions. And when our emotions are out of sync, when they’re offline, when we have been traumatized at that core level, those emotions will manifest in some form into a physical situation.
Whether that’s an addiction, whether that’s escapist behavior, whether that’s an anxiety, whether it’s a suicidal thought or a physical ailment, whatever that physical manifestation is always stemming from an emotional imbalance. And so when we strengthen our emotional bodies, we really can start to turn our lives around seriously. We really can. And so that’s the goal. That’s the aim.
That’s a little bit about me and I’m just thrilled that you’ve taken time out. I’m really honored that you’re here listening to the show, and I really truly hope that you will come back and listen to more because I know I have a plethora of guests and information and tips and techniques that are really, truly going to help you build that sustainable healing toolkit that will support you on every step of your healing journey.
I’m sending you so much love.
Can’t wait to see you next time.
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