Fall / Winter 2021 | A conversation with Vanessa Villela

 

Vanessa Villela is a successful Mexican-American actress with a multi-faceted career crossing decades, earning her roles in some of the top Telenovela shows and movies. Most recently we see her taking up the reins as the newest cast member of the Emmy Award-Winning Netflix show, Selling Sunset.

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A conversation with Vanessa Villela

Who is Vanessa Villela?

Vanessa Villela is a successful Mexican-American actress and the latest cast member of the Netflix Emmy award-winning show, Selling Sunset. She shares her story today.

 

 The power of vulnerability 

My journey through real estate is bittersweet and it has brought me a lot of blessings like the show. Dr. Levry told me when I met him for the first time that my path was to help people. And at that time I was considering doing something different and maybe not TV anymore. I was like how am I going to help people if my head is somewhere else? I don’t know if I want to continue doing villains and doing soap operas as villains all the time. So how am I going to get there? How am I going to help others? I don’t know, but it will come. Now, when life presented me with this terrible challenge, and it’s like if I was presented with something so incredibly painful and I overcame that, I have to share it and I have to be vulnerable and I have to help others. And if it’s just one person that will take my experience or the way that I took pain and use it as I did, then that’s good for me. It’s worth being vulnerable. There’s no way to connect to anyone in life if you’re not opening up, if you’re not vulnerable. You’re missing out on the beauty of life, which is connecting with someone.” It’s worth being vulnerable. I think that also there’s no way to connect with anyone in life if you’re not opening your heart, if you’re not vulnerable. Like you’re missing out in the beauty of life, which is connecting with someone.

 

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness

Three years ago I lost my sister. It was an unexpected death, so it was extremely painful. And I honestly felt that my world turned upside down. A part of me was there too with her. And I think I was trying to stay strong and be the best for my mom and for my brother because all of us started, I became the big sister instead of the middle sister. So I was like I need to be strong for my mom. I need to be strong for my brother, but I was suffering in silence.

 And it was like three months that I couldn’t eat, three months that I couldn’t sleep. And there was a moment where I was like enough, Vanessa, you need to ask for help. I’m sure that Jackie, Jackie is my sister’s name, wouldn’t want to see you like this and you need help. It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to not be strong and ask for help. I think that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It’s actually a sign of strength.

 It’s okay. I don’t know how to deal with these emotions right now. So how can I ask for help? Long story short, I was referred to Dr. Levry, and Dr. Levry created this amazing program with Naam, which includes meditations, including some of the classes that they have and they offer, and two Harmonyum sessions a week. They did a hundred day program for me, and it was incredible.

 

The Wonder of Harmonyum

I was in shock because three months after Jackie died, I couldn’t sleep more than two or three hours a night. And when I got to my Harmonyum session, not only did I fall asleep in the session, during the session, but also I had to go home, and I slept like for three or four hours, and then I finally slept the whole night. It was incredible. I couldn’t even believe it myself. I was like, oh my God, thank God, I’m sleeping. I’m finally sleeping!. That’s why when you’re sick, you have to sleep to heal. I don’t know if you can heal the loss of someone, but at least it eases the pain. With COVID, we have lost so many friends and relatives and it’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to ask for help. Some people want to put the pain under the rug. That’s never going to help and will never do anything good for you. It will instead create the opposite because we can become angry or depressed. And I use that pain as fuel to do something positive.

 My sister wanted me to be a realtor because she was a realtor. Even before this happened, she suggested the idea of me being a real estate agent. And I was like, it could sound cool. She was like, yeah, you love helping people. And you’re amazing with people. So it’s going to be easy for you because that’s more than 50% of the work. Life obviously presented me with this challenge. And then she guided me.  All this, like every step to Vanessa be a realtor, period. That was like behind the scenes what she was telling me.

Obviously now, I did listen to her. I used this as fuel, and I created something positive out of this pain to honor her life with my real estate career. It brought me this blessing that I’m sure that she’s behind this too. But what I’m saying is every hard situation that you go through in life, you have two options: either to be like, this is terrible. I’m a victim of life. Or, okay, what is the positive that I can take out of this situation? And there’s always a positive. As long as you’re alive, as long as you’re here, there’s hope. Just waking up, opening your eyes is a blessing. And if you can really see that, that’s the start of a new chapter in your life.

 

The Healing Journey

It was a long road to healing for me, and I was like I do want to heal my heart. And I knew it was like Dr. Levry said, you turn on the light so you can see all the mess you have there because once you start healing, you’re not only healing probably what you’re going through, but also past experiences in your life that could probably relate to the same issue in the end that is heartbreak. It could be something from your childhood, whatever it is. Loss can come in so many shapes and forms.  It was crazy because sometimes it was like you don’t even touch me, and sometimes I would feel pain coming out of my chest, literally from my heart. I don’t understand what it is, but I felt.  I am proof that if you commit to Harmonyum sessions, you will heal.

 What is also amazing is you can do online healing sessions.  That’s incredible too because that’s how powerful these practices are, and it’s something that you should consider.  Right now is a time for us to really turn on the light and start using all the tools that are out there for healing. There’s so many. Harmonyum is one of the best techniques I’ve experienced. Thank you so much for what you have done for me because I know that you brought the light in me again and I’m very thankful for that.

Piece of Advice

Love yourself. The first person you should take care of is yourself.

What’s Next

Selling Sunset Season 5, working with brands to do my own makeup line and fashion. Will keep you posted on Instagram.

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